5 Reasons a Self-Love Practice is Integral to the Ascension Process

Real self-love isn't about bubble baths, doing our nails, eating well, and taking care of our bodies. Although those things are wonderful for us and we should definitely do them, they don't fall under the category of self-love, but rather self-care. A woman who does not truly love herself very much may still engage in self-care, ironically often from a root of self-loathing rather than real self-love.

Self-love is demonstrated instead through what we will and will not tolerate in our lives. It is in our inner dialogue, our steadfastness with boundaries, our knowing of our worth, our refusal to self-abandon, and our willingness to stand in our Truth.

The cultivation of self-love should be normalized and taught in homes and grade schools, but it is particularly important for those of us who feel called to do any type of energy work as psychics and healers. Indeed, it is pivotal to the success of the initial healing process which initiates us as lightworkers and shadow workers. It is also a fundamental piece of our ongoing daily devotional practices that should never be dismissed or underrated.

Following are 5 reasons why not just the initial cultivation of self-love is so important, but why the ongoing sustaining and strengthening of true, divine love for ourselves is absolutely integral for psychics, healers, and anyone else on a spiritual awakening and/or ascension journey.

1) Without self-love, we cannot heal ourselves or transcend our traumas and shadows. We will forever live stuck in healing cycles, never truly healing or transmuting the energies for our Soul's evolution. True Love is the medicine and that's not woo woo, it's quantum healing science. Everything is frequency. You can't transmute the frequency of shame with the frequency of self-loathing.

2) Without self-love, we cannot raise the resonant frequency of our energy field because we will continue to transmit and receive the lower/slower/denser frequencies we are already holding in our field. Ascension is the process of transmuting lower/slower/denser energies (or frequencies) into higher/faster/lighter energies (frequencies). We need to be able to stabilize the higher vibrational energies of love and gratitude in our field to "raise our vibration" or attain "enlightenment."

3) Without self-love, we cannot activate the highest expression of our gifts. It is Universal Law: like attracts like. We will only be able to work with cosmic energies and Spirit beings that are resonant with the frequencies we are holding in our field. Our psychic abilities will be distorted, and our healing abilities will be less potent when we are not working with the Highest Divine Light possible. Any lower/slower/denser energies we are holding in our field that are counter to Divine Love/Light, which is cultivated through self-love practices, will attract interference and compromise our work.

4) Without self-love, our integrity will be compromised. This locks us into a lower vibration and caps the expression of our gifts. When we hide from ourselves because we can't love all of who we are, we are choosing to live in illusion and unintegrated ego, which are openings for negative entity interference and manipulation. Any layers of unintegrated shadow and ego can be leveraged by negative energies to gain access to our life force energy while we are easily manipulated to maintain the parasitic connection as it feeds on our need for validation and purpose. Self-love is the most powerful protection tool there is against interference and entity hijacking.

5) Without self-love, we cannot fully claim our Divine Inheritance or maintain Enlightenment because being in a state of self-love is the same as being unified with God. Refusing ourselves our own love is to refuse God's love, usually because unintegrated shadow says we are not worthy of it. Remembering ourselves in love is to remember that our love IS God's love. It is all the same love. And that love is not an action or an emotion, but a state of Being. Mental understanding of this concept won't get us there. Only embodying it through conscious practice first will lead us down the path of remembrance so we may embody the Highest Truth of who we are: Infinite and Eternal Beings of Divine Love.

Lack of self-love is the result of a deeply held belief that we are not lovable or worthy of love. So, we withhold love from ourselves and instead try to prove ourselves worthy by seeking it externally. In our efforts to prove ourselves worthy, we self-abandon, compromise our value, accept less than what we truly desire, negotiate our boundaries, criticize ourselves for the way think and feel, and ultimately settle for relationships and situations that reflect back our belief of low self-worth.

We can only receive the level of love we feel for ourselves. If we are actually living in a frequency of self-loathing with a harsh inner critic and an inner self that ignores our needs and dishonors our worth, this is exactly the energy we are going to attract into our lives and these are the types of energies that will compromise our energy work.

"Like attracts like" is a Universal Law. As above, so below. As within, so without.

As a Quantum Healer and Awakening Coach, there are two ways I work with my clients on their self-love cultivation.

1) Self-Love Ceremonies! As I mentioned before, so much of the reason we deny ourselves love is because we believe ourselves to be unworthy of it, and there is no better way to prove to you how worthy you are of love than taking you straight to the Source of Infinite Love so you may be permeated by it through every layer of your Being.

In these ceremonies, we take a journey through consciousness into the Cosmic Womb, the Heart of God, where you are held, suspended in an infinite ocean of Divine Love. It is here that you remember the truth of how much you are loved; that you were created by love, for love, through love, and that there is nothing you have ever done or could do to diminish the amount of love you are made of or that you deserve. God's love heals all doubt and shame and gives you permission to love yourself the same.

Yes, I really can take you on a journey to be with God's Love. The experiences my clients have in these journeys are miraculous and deeply transformational. I regularly facilitate this experience for my clients in our 1:1 appointments as well as group healing ceremonies I offer.

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One of the best ways you can experience a Self-Love Ceremony with me is on one of our Mount Shasta retreats for women that I hold twice a year. I facilitate three different quantum healing ceremonies during our retreats, and a Self-Love Ceremony is the first one we do as it sets the tone and lays the foundation for you to be open and surrendered to receive all your Soul is meant to receive while visiting this sacred land. Our Mount Shasta retreats are truly magical and life changing. For more information on our upcoming retreats, check out our Mount Shasta Retreats page.

2) The other way I help my clients is by teaching self-love practices that actually work to shift the way you view yourself and raise the resonant frequency of your energy field so you're attracting energies that mirror back to you your own self-love. This creates an energetic feedback loop that builds upon itself, cultivating more and more love in your field as you continue to engage with the self-love practices in meditation.

When we are in a state of love and gratitude for ourselves and our lives, our fields are primed to do really deep trauma work and shadow work. Trauma work and shadow work are similar but two different things that require the same medicine to alchemize lower energies into higher ones: the frequency of love.

I love to teach meditation techniques for women that feel natural to our energy systems and a big part of this is connecting with the body, cultivating love and gratitude, and then observing with loving awareness discordant energies to create harmony and field coherence.

This is what turns you into a master manifestor! This is what makes you a powerhouse of a healer! This is what makes you magnetic and activates your inner oracle! And it all starts with the proper meditation techniques. These are just some of the things I work on with my 1:1 coaching clients. All appointments with clients are different. The bend, stretch, and flow to meet the needs of each soul in each appointment. Supporting and witnessing women as they navigate the many chapters of their healing and spiritual awakening journeys is my specialty. For more information on just a few of the things we cover in 1:1 appointments, your can check out my Coaching and Healing page.

I hope this channeled message on why cultivating self-love is so important for energy workers, light workers, and shadow workers of all kind on the awakening ascension path was helpful. It is our intention always to be helpful.

Love Yourself Fiercely,

Rhiannan Nichole